Monday, May 18, 2015

Tragedy and Triumph

Headstone in Cemetery

Last week the sudden death of a friend was a shock. He was only 40 years old and left behind a wife and four little children. It is absolutely heartbreaking and this family has been constantly in my mind ever since.

I just wanted to write about my thoughts since this is what this blog is—a place to express my thoughts and feelings about life in general.

I cannot imagine how this family feels. Perhaps they are numb right now and still in shock. To lose your father at such a young age. To lose your husband and your best friend. And suddenly.

No goodbye. No warning. No chance to say you’re sorry. No moment to express your love. Just gone. Forever. Gone.

I cannot know how this family feels having never been there myself, but my heart broke for them just the same. Empathy and sympathy combined.

I sobbed and I found myself questioning—why?

It seems so senseless. So unfair. So wrong.

I don’t like to question God and honestly this is the first time I’ve ever done so. But in his mercy, He gave me an answer that satisfied my soul—something my dad said not very long ago and I can’t even remember what we were talking about at the time.

“We are living this life—not for this life, but in preparation for eternity.”

It’s a tragedy in the natural sense in every single way. But in a spiritual sense, he finished faithfully in triumph.

This life is temporary, but eternity is forever.

Let the little things go. Let your loved ones know they are always loved. Remember that every breath could be your last.

And never, ever forget the true purpose of life.


  1. I'm so sorry for your loss; I pray for peace and for comfort for you and for his family.

    Thank you for the reminder of the true purpose of life.

  2. Condolences to you and the family of your friend. I wish it didn't sometimes take this kind of thing to remind us of what is really important and give us the perspective that we need.


  3. Oh I hate things like that, too. I always do feel for the spouse, but when there are children left in the home it just seems to double the pain. I think of how much my 4 love their dad (and myself) and imagine their poor little emotions and feelings if one of us were taken away. I'm so sorry for this family.

  4. Oh Death always puts Life into perspective. Too bad that perspective doesn't stay in our forethoughts always but it tends to fade as we get carried away in life's littlest things.

    Then a death of another quickly brings it up front again for a reminder. LIFE is funny that way.

    I am totally trying to enjoy moments so much more and let go of all the other stuff that doesn't really dust, a couple of dirty dishes sitting in the sink overnight, clothes not put away asap etc....

    And having that blizzard at DQ now and again IS really worth every calorie and smile it brings me!!

  5. I am sorry for your loss and the loss of that family :(...lately i've also come to to the realization that we need to make a conscious effort to enjoy this wonderful gift called life. We often get caught up in situations that in all honesty, mean nothing when compared to the fact that we are not here forever. Lets make the best of it.

  6. How incredibly sad! Death really does put everything into perspective. Things we think are huge, can not compare to a loss. My thoughts and prayers to you and to his family.

  7. So sorry for this families loss-- I cannot imagine. I'm sorry for your loss as well. :(

  8. Oh I'm so sorry to hear about your friend's death. I cannot imagine what his wife must be going through. Prayers for her and strength to continue raising their little family.



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